Becoming a Parent

I'm adopting my niece and nephew in 2011. After years and years of trying to convince my brother into allowing me to become guardian to his kids so they can continue their education in the US he finally gave in.

My 2nd to oldest brother Juan moved to Ensenada a few years ago with his family including my nephew Jr. and niece Maritza who are both US Citizens. As much as I love Mexico, I know their education systems are nothing compared to the US. Together my mother and I tried convincing my brother and his wife to allow us to take care of them so they can continue their education here. They constantly refused.

I never gave up.

I got really upset one night and told my brother he should stop being selfish. I told him he should think about his kids and their future and how living with me and their gramma would be beneficial to his children and even him as a parent.  Life in Mexico is not easy. My brother has always been businessman and even though he has 3 business', he still found himself trying to make ends meet.  I finally convinced him that allowing me to take on his kids would help him in releiving some financial burdens. Bringing my niece and nephew to live with me would save him from school fee's, uniforms, books, and many other expenses that US education systems don't require. His wife and he finally realized maybe this wouldn't be such a bad idea. 

I'm quite nervous.  Even though my mother lives with me now, this is my baby. I wanted this. I asked for this. I will be responsible for them.  I know my mother will help me care for them and even discipline them but this is my responsibility. I didn't bring them here so she can take care of them. I will be their legal guardian and I will have to be responsible for their behavior, their grades, their education, and their behavior.

I've always had a great relationship with the two and have always been very strict with them even though I was their tia. My niece is going to be 15 in 2011 and she's the light in my eyes. I have seen her grow and it's so scary to see her so big and becoming a young lady.  She's still a baby to me, and looking back I remember being her age and thinking I was so big and grown. I find myself questioning what happened and how did she grow so fast. I'm so scared for her. I want to protect her and guide her and continue having the beautiful relationship we have. I want her to get good grades and be in sports and I want her to be successfull.

My little nephew Jr is a little devil but I love him. He's such a trouble maker but a good kid none the less. He's a little mexican Denise the Menace and it's so cute, I'm sure he's gonna give me gray hairs to the max!

2011 is defintely going to be something else for me and I can't wait. I'm really looking forward to this new change and responsibility. I want to make my brother proud and I want to open up more opportunities for these kids.

I can't wait to share more about the journey I'm about to begin.

Wish me luck!
xoxo
Mayra

30 Random Facts

I was tagged on Facebook and decided to post here as well.

1.I have this thing for nerds and weirdo's lol

2.I am obsessed with older men (good looking older men that is, dont get it twisted lol)

3.The first thing I did when I got home was kick off my shoes, undo jeans and remove them before I got to the restroom and I'd lounge around in undies and tank all day.I can't do that anymore :( lol

4.I'm always late. For Everything.

5.I've never been in love. Love in my mind, is nothing near what I've experienced. I can't wait to fall in real love.

6.I'm easily infatuated and lose interest rather quickly.

7.Sometimes I'll burp super loud and just say "oopsie" lol

8.Sometimes when I'm tipsy at the club, I just like to kiss hot guys! lol Dont judge me! Idk what it is about the environment, the music, dancing close to each other, ugh just kiss already damnit! lol Not like I'll remember him the net day anyway lol

9.I can do the splits and a natural backbend, too bad I can't do the whole backbend and kick over, that would be cool lol but too much weight down there, and I dont have the upper strength

10.When I was 16, my instructor hit on me. I went on a date with him after I turned 18. He was 33. He was HOT. lol.

11.I know how to cook some bomb ass food, I just dont like to lol

12.When I was in the 4th grade I did a presentation on Whales, I wanted to be an oceanographer. Today, I'd love to join the Steve Irwin on an expedition to Antartica to help save whales and Stop the Yushin Maru and it's fleet.

13.I empathise so easily and unnoticeably that I'll be watching televisioin and suddenly an uncontrollable rush comes over me and I just breakdown in tears, it goes away as soon as I change the channel. Ain't that some shit!

14.I'm scared of babies and kids. I get nervous around them. Maybe because theres not so many kids in my family now, other than then ewest nephews and niece but kids get me nervous when they can't speak, specially when they just stare at you! I feel like I'm looking at the devil! lol J/k ok that was a litttle harsh but some kids can be some evil lil fuckers lol

15.I can't stand women that talk back to their mothers, can't control their children, and allow their kids to talk back to them, cause and throw tantrums in the stores, yelling like they're on fire or dying!

16.I despise girls that have kids all young, talking about how their kid is their life yet they be hoeing around and having their parents watch their kids while they're fuckn around catching STD's and getting PREGO again

17.I roll my eyes at young ass bitches that talk about "they grown ass women" when these dumb ass little 18 y/o girls can't even wipe their ass or do their own laundry properly and talk like they know how life is! bitch please, NO. You have NO idea, wait till ur 24 and see another 18 y/o talk like you do, you'll see how lame you looked.

18.I'm a feminist. Can't stand women who swear their world is over because a guy left them. Bitch move on, theres plenty of fish in the sea, test the waters. Can't stand women that allow men to walk all over them, treat them like dirt and like they're worthless. You are not worthless, you are not trash, he's the scum on the bottom of my shoes for even disrespecting you like that, but you...you, ain't so far from him for even allowing him to treat you that way.

19.The best lessonsI ever had were given to me by my mother. When I was 11, together we packed her old man's shit and left it at the front door. He asked her to allow him to put hands on us to "discipline" us and she's like "kick rocks mofucka" no one lays a hand on my kids but me. I'll never forget that day.

20.When I was 9, I witnessed a man put a knife to the neck of a woman, threatening her, me and and his kids to stay back. I remember not being scared, but just knowing I'd never allow a man to do that to me, and I'd never allow myself to get in a situation like that. And that's when I began despising men who treated women wrongly, and the woman who let them get away with it.

21.That same man, tried molesting me in a pool. Bastard couldn't get away with it, because i followed my instincts and got away each time he got near me till I decided maybe swimming was not such a good idea.

22.The older I get, the more comfortable I become with my body and my sexuality, and the more I look forward to getting older and where my life will be at 35 and how HOT i'm gonna look, probably better, actually, WAY better than today.

23.I dont know if I want to have kids. I think about it and the thought doesnt last too long when I'm already wondering about other things. Dont know if I have that motherly instinct or not, but everyone seems to tell me I'll know when I'm ready and that's when I'll get Prego. Not that I want to get Prego now, hell no, I'll DIE! lol

24.I despise poeple that are extremely judgemental, close minded, and just like to snoop, gossip, and talk shit because their life is so miserable they have nothing else to do.

25. a million identical headshots-NUISANCE (no pun intended as some well a lot of you do this lol)

26.I tend to correct people when they mispell or mispronounce a word, lyrics, or English in general. Some poeple get mad, but the way I see it is I'm hleping you out in preventing you from making a fool of yourself in the future. I'm no expert, but if I know you're saying or spelling it wrong, then I'm gonna let you know.

27.WrItInG LiKe ThIs iS sOooOoOOooO FuCkN AnNoYInG and LaMe! (in my opnion obviously)

28.Meddled by consanguinities at the peak of innocense

29.I've had my luck with cops. @14 I almost ran over a cop and was let go, at 16 I was pulled over under the influence with no license or registration OR insurance and was let go, but at 18 I was actually violated by a dirty cop and been pulled over for speeding and let go. (knocks on wood).

30.I have big dreams and aspirations. The sky is the limit. I want to be a writer/journalist and have my work recognized amongst the best and make people proud of themselves and of me.

Plus Size Pinup Inspired Outfit

One of my favorite outfits. I love the sexy and conservative look this outfit offers. Very versatile, sexy, and edgy. I used two pieces. A red polka dot top corset front closure from Torrid with lace trimmings and a high waisted pencil skirt I picked up at my local mall.  This outfit can be transformed in so many ways just by switching up the top.

And here's my personal mini photoshoot. I added my favorite pics, I know it's a picture heavy post, but I had so many I loved! lol Enjoy!



Steve Madden Pumps



A litte cleavage goes a long way. It's a good idea to leave room for the imagination and not have it all hang out.

Movie Night - Unstoppable

Friday, November 19th, Liz and I went to the movies to watch Unstoppable feat. Denzel Washington and some other hottie I can't remember the name of. Great movie, lot's of suspense and drama. This is the outfit I wore.

 

 Purple Scoop Neck Top (Actually a Dress) - JCP

Faux Snake Skin Leggings - Torrid

Mid Calf Boots - Ross

Black Cardigan - Ross

Black Sequins Hat & Purple Scarf - Ross

 

The leggins are very thin, therefore I had to wear some black shorts underneath, almost like a spanx. They offer my legs more support and prevent cellulite and my thunder thighs from coming through the thin leggings. The purple top I wore is actually a dress I picked up at JCP on Clearance a few months ago. I simply shurgged it up a bit and used it as a top. Dont know if I'd use it any other way as it would be too skimpy and my behind would probably be hanging out for the world to see. Completed the outfit with a scarf and hat as it was a rainy cool night and this helped keep me nice and warm.

Goodwill Finds

As you may know I am a big bargain shopper. I try and find deals left and right and get more bang for my buck. Thrift shops like Goodwill and consingment shops are not to be left behind or ignored. Here are a few finds I found a while back and wanted to share. A lot of vintage items and for super cheap. I really enjoy shopping at thrifts because of all the ideas I gather in my mind, the alterations that can be done and the outfits than can be put together.

Bought these amazing gold toned shades. Yes, they're a little beat up and have minor scratches here and there, but who doesn't scratch their glasses anyway. They look a lot more expensive than they are and adds a lot of glam to any outfit. These are some of my favorite shades and they're hot!

Found these wonderful vintage earrings. Most are clip ons and the rest are regular pin earrings. I like to sanitize my earrings before wearing them just to be on the safe side considering they were amongst a bunch of other earrings and with anything used, it's always best to wash/sanitize before using it yourself.

I bought these shoes for five dollars. The shoes are BRAND SPANKING NEW. Never been used, the bottom soles have absolutely no scratches and no signs of use.  They're very vintage and high class or sophisticated looking lol. I found some earrings to match so I'm defintely looking forward to putting an old vintage glam outfit together and make use of these shoes and earrings.