Trey Songz - Can't Be Friends

Open Note to Trey: Trey, we all know you're gorgeous, fine, and that you make our mouth water, but seriously you need to chill and kick back a little with all that sex appeal you are so desperatly trying to ooze out of you in this video.

Now ladies, I am having second thoughts about Trey in this video. I love a man that has confidence in himself and knows he drives a woman crazy, but Trey just over did it for me in this video.  His sexy appeal isn't natural in this video for me, he's trying to damn hard to make you melt and it's just not working for me.

However I do sit back and enjoy being amused by him as he so desperatly tries to "make love to me" through this video. Babe, it ain't working. Sorry. CUT CUT CUT!

I dont know about you all but I almost feel uncomfortable watching this video and I feel for the directors and camera men behind the shoot! lol. He's so into himself in this video it's so ridiculous and so funny to me at the same time. So many girls comment on how they wish they were the girl in the video and I find myself questioning why!? Seriously, the girl may be in his arms but clearly Trey is more into himself than the girl and it's so funny watching him try to act like he's really into her when he's trying so hard to seduce you through the screen. I dont know, it just doesn't flow naturally for me. Defintely amusing though.

From the googly squinty eyes to his head nodding and shaking back and forth, I've never seen a male artist try so hard to detail emotion the way Trey did in this video. ...something's changed for me when it comes to Trey. Seriously, the man looks gay. And threre's nothing wrong with being gay, but what woman fantasizes about a gay man? Not saying Trey is gay, just saying he looks gay to me in this video.

What are your thoughts on the video?

Beautiful Disaster

Since I've moved to my new apartment, I have yet to finish unpacking. I have been so lazy it's ridiculous. I find myself questioning how on earth I became so lazy and when did it start getting so bad.

Sometimes I wonder if my independence led me to become such a lazy ass.

It truly felt amazing to have my own place, live at my own expense; at my own will. Will to do as I pleased. I loved coming home to my place, MY place. A place I called my own in which I did as I pleased. The space in which nobody could mess with. Yea, well my space is all gone now!

 As much as I love living with "the lady" (my mother), it's a constant reminder and challenge to keep things organized.

That lady is so organized she drives me crazy. Why didn't I pick up on that trait hers? I find myself questioning it all the time. Growing up she's always been very stern. I find myself mocking her because she's so organized and I'm the complete opposite which drives her crazy! She knows I try,  she shakes her head in amusement each time she comes to my room and finds me "organizing". She always teases me and says that it always takes me longer to organize than what it lasts before it's all unorganized again. She's alway right, and we laugh together everytime.

I can never lie to her. Lie to her yes, get away with it never. She knows me to damn well.  When we'd talk over the phone, she'd tell me she can guarantee a car that my house was a disaster. I always told her it wasn't, that it was very organized. Truth was, the place was organized--for me. I knew where everything was, I laid it out as I pleased; laid out to work for me. I didn't have kids, a husband, or anyone to be so concerned about and have it so damn tidy. I've never been a neat freak or extremely tidy. I've always been a disaster. A beautiful disaster.

The disaster is getting out of control and it needed a little tame and so I decided I needed to buy a few things in order to get my disaster under control.

Organized Shopping

In order for me to organize my room, I visualized how I planned on organizing. I painted a vivid picture in my mind about how I wanted to organize my things while making it easy and convenient to maintain it organized. I wanted a system that was fast and easy.

I previously had all my jeans hung on a closet extending rack I had purchased at wal*mart. After moving into the new place and into my new bedroom I decided the rack wasn't really working for me anymore. I didn't like having my jeans hanging on the lower half of my closet or the fact that it was putting so much weight on the bar.

I wanted a system where I'd keep all my jeans folded and tucked away but with the visibility to see each pair of jean. I pictured cubbies like the ones I've seen at Torrid when I shop nicely stacked and separated by size.

At first I purchased a Joy Mongano 6 Shelf Closet Organizer from Target for $15.99. I thought of hanging it in my closet and nicely stacking my jeans witin each shelf cubbie but that didn't work out. You can find out why here.

After heading back to Target and returning the no good closet organizer, I decided I needed something that was going to be heavy duty and durable. I purchased a Stackable 9 Cube Organizer instead for $50 bucks.  Completely worth it and a great investment indeed.

I brought my vision to life with this cube organizer. I was able to sort and stack my jeans nicely and still have easy access to grab and go. Keeping this baby organized should be fast and easy. The great thing about this organizer is if I ever resort back to hanging my jeans, I can use it as a bookshelf, or even add cubbie drawers and use it as another means of storage. The possibilities are endless. 

I also puchased a few other items I have yet to include in this post but will defintely discuss in a video I plan to upload. I'll post pictures in another post soon.

Jay Mongano 6 Shelf Closet Organizer - Review

I was excited to come across this wonderful closet organizer at Target for only $15.99. My closet was becoming out of control and I needed an item that would give my closet to more space and a little more organization. I figured this closet organizer was exactly what I needed. 

The first thing that caught my attention was the design. The pattern was really nice, cute, and anything but plain. The visual on the cover drew me in and I was able to visualize this item in my closet and figured it would work. I made my way to the register and on my way home to get some organizing done.

Quickly I put it together and hung it on my closet rack. It looked amazing!!

Until I began putting items inside. 

I was quickly disappointed when everything slouched over. I tried coming up with ways in which I could enforce the support on the bottom shelfs but nothing seemed reasonable enough to allow for more support.  Anything I added on these shelfs was too heavy and quickly began bending and slouching the shelfs. This item is a waste of money and is almost impossible to use without having anything slouch inside the shelves. The advertisement on this item is completely false and photoshopped. These shelves can't hold a t-shirt without slouching or bending under the weight. These shelfs are not strait and firm as is depicted on the item cover-under any weight (unless its a ziplock full of feathers). 

After inspecting the shelfs properly I noticed they all had cardboard inserts. As we all know, cardboard bends and doesn't support much weight--hence major fail.  I quickly gathered my things and returned this item and purchased a cube organizer instead and my closet looks so nicely organized and it's so much better than this Shelf Closet Organizer.

Becoming a Parent

I'm adopting my niece and nephew in 2011. After years and years of trying to convince my brother into allowing me to become guardian to his kids so they can continue their education in the US he finally gave in.

My 2nd to oldest brother Juan moved to Ensenada a few years ago with his family including my nephew Jr. and niece Maritza who are both US Citizens. As much as I love Mexico, I know their education systems are nothing compared to the US. Together my mother and I tried convincing my brother and his wife to allow us to take care of them so they can continue their education here. They constantly refused.

I never gave up.

I got really upset one night and told my brother he should stop being selfish. I told him he should think about his kids and their future and how living with me and their gramma would be beneficial to his children and even him as a parent.  Life in Mexico is not easy. My brother has always been businessman and even though he has 3 business', he still found himself trying to make ends meet.  I finally convinced him that allowing me to take on his kids would help him in releiving some financial burdens. Bringing my niece and nephew to live with me would save him from school fee's, uniforms, books, and many other expenses that US education systems don't require. His wife and he finally realized maybe this wouldn't be such a bad idea. 

I'm quite nervous.  Even though my mother lives with me now, this is my baby. I wanted this. I asked for this. I will be responsible for them.  I know my mother will help me care for them and even discipline them but this is my responsibility. I didn't bring them here so she can take care of them. I will be their legal guardian and I will have to be responsible for their behavior, their grades, their education, and their behavior.

I've always had a great relationship with the two and have always been very strict with them even though I was their tia. My niece is going to be 15 in 2011 and she's the light in my eyes. I have seen her grow and it's so scary to see her so big and becoming a young lady.  She's still a baby to me, and looking back I remember being her age and thinking I was so big and grown. I find myself questioning what happened and how did she grow so fast. I'm so scared for her. I want to protect her and guide her and continue having the beautiful relationship we have. I want her to get good grades and be in sports and I want her to be successfull.

My little nephew Jr is a little devil but I love him. He's such a trouble maker but a good kid none the less. He's a little mexican Denise the Menace and it's so cute, I'm sure he's gonna give me gray hairs to the max!

2011 is defintely going to be something else for me and I can't wait. I'm really looking forward to this new change and responsibility. I want to make my brother proud and I want to open up more opportunities for these kids.

I can't wait to share more about the journey I'm about to begin.

Wish me luck!
xoxo
Mayra