Just like men have their needs, so do women. Some women are quite promiscuous, no shame in their game, and more power to the woman who does whas she pleases, as she pleases, and with who as long as she is safe. In the end, it's that woman sleeping around, so it shouldn't affect anyone so no need for judgement.
Tony, only a month after my breakup with Roger in October of 09. You can learn more about that encounter here. Ever since I met Tony, he's been a friend, a lover, and a little more. After Tony and I hooked up for the first time, we both set our cards on the table. Neither one wanted a relationship or the drama that came along with one. Neither one of us wanted to get emotionally attached to the other. We agreed our relationship would be nothing more than friends with benefits.
I've been hooking up with Tony for almost a year and a half and it's been great, however suddenly he flipped the tables on me and I really don't know what to make of it.
Tony and I have had issues, sometimes he wants to see me and sometimes I just don't. Even thogh we're friends with benefits, I still see our encounters as "sexual" only. Tony and I do go out for walks, dinner, and a movie every now and then but I try to avoid all that to avoid emotional attachment. I have to admit our "relationship" in the beginning was a lot better than it is today, but like any relationship I've had in the past...I begin to drift and lose interest. Tony noticed that and he always made it a point to bring it up, but this time he came at me from left field and now I'm wondering if I've suddenly merged into an offical boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
It all started a few days ago when Tony raised some concern about our "relationship" over a text message...
Tony / Me
Tony feels like I've changed and don't really like him or want to see him anymore. That is not the case. I've been simply consumed with work and school and I get tired! Aside from that, I don't live alone anymore and even though I'm still independant, I have my mother living with me and I owe her a lot of respect and I'd never bring a guy home while living under the same roof. I just can't do it.
I remind Tony that this is not a relationship and he's free to do as he pleases because I'm not his woman, his girlfriend, or anyone he owes explanations to and that's when he hits me from left field with he "wants to be" in a relationship.
I'm seriously tripping out right now.
About my "negativity"...
Tony is Afghan, therefore being the oldest son, his family would prefer he marry muslim. I'm not muslim. Sure, who's talking about marriage right...but why get into a relationship if you know it has no future, no potential, and that it's not going anywhere? My point. exactly.
So I agreed and went against my own contradiction and said I'd be willing to try this new path our "relationship" is about to take. I really don't feel like we're in a relationship though. I think and feel everything is the same but our relationship has an official title now.
Tony wants us to date more and do more things that couples do together (outside the bedroom) lol so I figured I would be open minded and try it. I mean, what do I have to lose? He already got me in the sack lol
The good thing about Tony and I is we live 20 minutes apart and he understands that I work and go to school and with him working on his 2nd degree, his evenings are consumed with school work as well and therefore our contact is limited which is good because I really don't have the time for a full time boyfriend who wants to talk, text, see you 24/7. I already enjoy his company, the sex is great (TMI I know), but I'm really still tripping on this whole bootycall turned boyfriend deal.
Ironic isn't it?
Him: "hey, hi...wanna have sex?"
Her: "hi...um, sure!"
Him"just sex, no strings attached, don't want a relationship"
Her: "great! neither do I"
a year and a half later...
Him: "well you know, why don't we try to do something other than sex"
Her: "um...okay, sure why not?"
Who does that? lol
I guess this begins a new chapter on my life, we'll see where it goes.
To be Continued